{"id":7637,"date":"2022-05-17T11:22:08","date_gmt":"2022-05-17T16:22:08","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/tatianacameron.com\/?p=7637"},"modified":"2022-05-17T11:47:08","modified_gmt":"2022-05-17T16:47:08","slug":"brokenness-is-not-a-problem-unprocessed-brokenness-is","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"http:\/\/tatianacameron.com\/dev\/brokenness-is-not-a-problem-unprocessed-brokenness-is\/","title":{"rendered":"Brokenness is not a problem. Unprocessed brokenness is."},"content":{"rendered":"\n\n[et_pb_section fb_built=”1″ _builder_version=”4.5.7″ _module_preset=”default” custom_margin=”-53px|||||” global_colors_info=”{}”][et_pb_row disabled_on=”off|off|off” _builder_version=”4.5.7″ _module_preset=”default” min_height=”1640px” custom_padding=”0px|||0px||” global_colors_info=”{}”][et_pb_column type=”4_4″ _builder_version=”4.5.7″ _module_preset=”default” global_colors_info=”{}”][et_pb_text disabled_on=”on|off|off” _builder_version=”4.5.7″ _module_preset=”default” text_line_height=”2.5em” custom_padding=”|124px||124px|false|false” global_colors_info=”{}”]

Tom Lorie, one of the hosts of the\u00a0Mentor\u2019s Show Radio<\/em>, invited me back to his show and suggested we talk about brokenness.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

During our interview, Tom talked about brokenness being pervasive in our culture – and our world.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

You can see it everywhere…
<\/span>In the systems that leave people hungry, sick, and homeless…
<\/span>In wars being fought…
<\/span>In industries that lose sight of humanity (and the planet that hosts them)…
<\/span>In addictions, loneliness, depression, and suicides, which are all on the rise…\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

It\u2019s easy to feel overwhelmed by the enormity of such a problem, so I chose to take an up-close and personal look at the brokenness.\u00a0<\/span>\u00a0<\/p>\n

At the core of a \u2018broken\u2019 system are humans – people whose brokenness went unprocessed or has not been tended to properly.\u00a0<\/span>\u00a0<\/p>\n

First of all, let\u2019s clarify \u2018brokenness.\u2019\u00a0<\/span>\u00a0<\/p>\n

We use the word \u2018broken\u2019 in different instances: when a loved one leaves, they break our heart; someone\u2019s spirit is broken and they lose joy and passion for life; unfulfilled wishes or desires leave us with broken dreams.<\/span>\u00a0<\/p>\n

All of these describe experiences of something painful (that we feel in our body and explain with our mind). It’s a temporary state we are in, but one that can be changed.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

Our\u00a0experiences<\/em>\u00a0aren\u2019t\u00a0who\u00a0<\/em>we are.<\/strong>\u00a0We are\u00a0having\u00a0<\/em>these experiences.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

Even when we feel \u2018broken,\u2019 at the core of who we are, we always remain whole. (Some call that core the soul, or the consciousness, or the true self. It\u2019s the\u00a0you<\/em>\u00a0that God knew before you were placed in your mother\u2019s womb. It\u2019s the\u00a0you<\/em>\u00a0that passes on after you die.)<\/span><\/p>\n

Every one of us will experience painful emotional moments. The sooner a child learns that it\u2019s ok to feel sad, angry, frustrated, disappointed, lonely, etc, the more of a chance they have to embrace all of these experiences and learn to process them.<\/span><\/p>\n

On the other hand, learning to suppress unpleasant feelings – and feeling bad or shameful for having them – leads to avoiding, distracting, or numbing those experiences. You lose the chance to learn how to process them properly. You lose the chance to build resilience, so that as life expands we can handle crises, losses, and even traumas.<\/span><\/p>[\/et_pb_text][et_pb_text disabled_on=”off|off|on” _builder_version=”4.5.7″ _module_preset=”default” text_line_height=”2.4em” custom_padding=”|8px||7px|false|false” global_colors_info=”{}”]

Tom Lorie, one of the hosts of the\u00a0Mentor\u2019s Show Radio<\/em>, invited me back to his show and suggested we talk about brokenness. <\/span><\/p>\n

D<\/span>uring our interview, Tom talked about brokenness being pervasive in our culture – and our world.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

You can see it everywhere…
<\/span>In the systems that leave people hungry, sick, and homeless…
<\/span>In wars being fought…
<\/span>In industries that lose sight of humanity (and the planet that hosts them)…
<\/span>In addictions, loneliness, depression, and suicides, which are all on the rise…\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

It\u2019s easy to feel overwhelmed by the enormity of such a problem, so I chose to take an up-close and personal look at the brokenness.\u00a0<\/span>\u00a0<\/p>\n

At the core of a \u2018broken\u2019 system are humans – people whose brokenness went unprocessed or has not been tended to properly.\u00a0<\/span>\u00a0<\/p>\n

First of all, let\u2019s clarify \u2018brokenness.\u2019\u00a0<\/span>\u00a0<\/p>\n

We use the word \u2018broken\u2019 in different instances: when a loved one leaves, they break our heart; someone\u2019s spirit is broken and they lose joy and passion for life; unfulfilled wishes or desires leave us with broken dreams.<\/span>\u00a0<\/p>\n

All of these describe experiences of something painful (that we feel in our body and explain with our mind). It’s a temporary state we are in, but one that can be changed.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

Our\u00a0experiences<\/em>\u00a0aren\u2019t\u00a0who\u00a0<\/em>we are.<\/strong>\u00a0We are\u00a0having\u00a0<\/em>these experiences.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

Even when we feel \u2018broken,\u2019 at the core of who we are, we always remain whole. (Some call that core the soul, or the consciousness, or the true self. It\u2019s the\u00a0you<\/em>\u00a0that God knew before you were placed in your mother\u2019s womb. It\u2019s the\u00a0you<\/em>\u00a0that passes on after you die.)<\/span><\/p>\n

Every one of us will experience painful emotional moments. The sooner a child learns that it\u2019s ok to feel sad, angry, frustrated, disappointed, lonely, etc, the more of a chance they have to embrace all of these experiences and learn to process them.<\/span><\/p>\n

On the other hand, learning to suppress unpleasant feelings – and feeling bad or shameful for having them – leads to avoiding, distracting, or numbing those experiences. You lose the chance to learn how to process them properly. You lose the chance to build resilience, so that as life expands we can handle crises, losses, and even traumas.<\/span><\/p>[\/et_pb_text][et_pb_image src=”http:\/\/tatianacameron.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/05\/12.png” title_text=”Our Experiences aren’t who we are. ” align=”center” _builder_version=”4.14.2″ _module_preset=”default” width=”100%” hover_enabled=”0″ global_colors_info=”{}” sticky_enabled=”0″][\/et_pb_image][et_pb_text disabled_on=”on|off|off” _builder_version=”4.5.7″ _module_preset=”default” text_line_height=”2.5em” custom_padding=”|124px||124px|false|false” global_colors_info=”{}”]

Now, let\u2019s look at the unprocessed brokenness that causes all these hardships in the world.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

We can have a broken bone, but even the broken bone will be broken only for a moment. Almost immediately after a fracture, the body will start the repairing and healing process. If the bone is set correctly, it will heal perfectly and we will regain the normal range of motion. If we let the bone heal without setting it back in its place, it will never be the same.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

When it comes to the parts of us that can\u2019t be x-rayed and checked for fractures – our mind and our hearts (emotions) – we often don\u2019t apply the same treatment.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

Feeling broken is ok. Who hasn\u2019t felt some level of brokenness at different points in our lives?\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

But not addressing it is not ok.<\/span><\/p>\n

You can see unprocessed hurt in someone who becomes a greedy, self-centered profiteer. You can see it in people who hurt others – when their own unattended brokenness develops into anger and hatred.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

I can look at my own life and see broken relationships and mistakes I made from the place of unprocessed brokenness.\u00a0<\/span>\u00a0<\/p>\n

Most of us don\u2019t have the right support, understanding, or even awareness of what\u2019s happening.<\/span><\/p>\n

But as I wrote last week<\/a> – once you have even an ounce of awareness about it, you can\u2019t become unaware<\/em>\u00a0of it.<\/span><\/p>\n

Wellbeing (physical, mental, emotional, and spiritual) starts with observing and becoming aware of the habits that are nourishing and the ones that are toxic.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

With that awareness, we can access the unprocessed brokenness and heal it. And yes, facing it and working on it might even mean that you\u2019ll need to deconstruct it first and then put the pieces back together – much like a broken bone that has healed improperly.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

\u00a0I invite you to reflect on this, and if you feel inclined, listen to\u00a0The Mentor\u2019s Radio<\/a>.<\/em><\/span><\/p>\n

\u00a0Tajci<\/span><\/p>\n

\u00a0PS.\u00a0The Mentor\u2019s Radio <\/em><\/a>is available on all podcast streaming platforms.<\/span><\/p>[\/et_pb_text][et_pb_text disabled_on=”off|off|on” _builder_version=”4.5.7″ _module_preset=”default” text_line_height=”2.4em” custom_padding=”|16px|8px|6px|false|false” global_colors_info=”{}”]

Now, let\u2019s look at the unprocessed brokenness that causes all these hardships in the world.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

We can have a broken bone, but even the broken bone will be broken only for a moment. Almost immediately after a fracture, the body will start the repairing and healing process. If the bone is set correctly, it will heal perfectly and we will regain the normal range of motion. If we let the bone heal without setting it back in its place, it will never be the same.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

When it comes to the parts of us that can\u2019t be x-rayed and checked for fractures – our mind and our hearts (emotions) – we often don\u2019t apply the same treatment.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

Feeling broken is ok. Who hasn\u2019t felt some level of brokenness at different points in our lives?\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

But not addressing it is not ok.<\/span><\/p>\n

You can see unprocessed hurt in someone who becomes a greedy, self-centered profiteer. You can see it in people who hurt others – when their own unattended brokenness develops into anger and hatred.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

I can look at my own life and see broken relationships and mistakes I made from the place of unprocessed brokenness.\u00a0<\/span>\u00a0<\/p>\n

Most of us don\u2019t have the right support, understanding, or even awareness of what\u2019s happening.<\/span><\/p>\n

But as I wrote last week<\/a> – once you have even an ounce of awareness about it, you can\u2019t become unaware<\/em>\u00a0of it.<\/span><\/p>\n

Wellbeing (physical, mental, emotional, and spiritual) starts with observing and becoming aware of the habits that are nourishing and the ones that are toxic.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

With that awareness, we can access the unprocessed brokenness and heal it. And yes, facing it and working on it might even mean that you\u2019ll need to deconstruct it first and then put the pieces back together – much like a broken bone that has healed improperly.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

\u00a0I invite you to reflect on this, and if you feel inclined, listen to\u00a0The Mentor\u2019s Radio.<\/em><\/a><\/span><\/p>\n

\u00a0Tajci<\/span><\/p>\n

\u00a0PS.\u00a0The Mentor\u2019s Radio <\/em><\/a>is available on all podcast streaming platforms.<\/span><\/p>[\/et_pb_text][et_pb_text _builder_version=”4.5.7″ _module_preset=”default” min_height=”46px” global_colors_info=”{}”]

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Tom picked\u00a0<\/span>Dell\u2019 Aurora Tu Sorgi Piu Bella<\/em>\u00a0for the show. It\u2019s a beautiful Italian song I found in a small bookstore in Trieste, Italy.<\/span><\/p>\n

It was 2006 and I was visiting Croatia (and Italy) because my dad was sick. I wanted to find a song in Italian to sing for him. He passed away in September that same year. (Coincidentally – or not – Tom and I taped the radio interview a day before my Dad’s birthday.)<\/span><\/p>\n

Read more of the story about the song in the description as you\u00a0listen to the song<\/a>.<\/span><\/p>\n

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Tom picked\u00a0<\/span>Dell\u2019 Aurora Tu Sorgi Piu Bella<\/em>\u00a0for the show. It\u2019s a beautiful Italian song I found in a small bookstore in Trieste, Italy.<\/span><\/p>\n

It was 2006 and I was visiting Croatia (and Italy) because my dad was sick. I wanted to find a song in Italian to sing for him. He passed away in September that same year. (Coincidentally – or not – Tom and I taped the radio interview a day before my Dad’s birthday.)<\/span><\/p>\n

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