{"id":7558,"date":"2022-05-04T09:27:46","date_gmt":"2022-05-04T14:27:46","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/tatianacameron.com\/?p=7558"},"modified":"2022-08-09T18:22:21","modified_gmt":"2022-08-09T23:22:21","slug":"peace-peace-only-peace","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"http:\/\/tatianacameron.com\/dev\/peace-peace-only-peace\/","title":{"rendered":"Peace, Peace, Only Peace…"},"content":{"rendered":"\n\n[et_pb_section fb_built=”1″ _builder_version=”4.5.7″ _module_preset=”default” custom_margin=”-53px|||||” global_colors_info=”{}” theme_builder_area=”post_content”][et_pb_row disabled_on=”off|off|off” _builder_version=”4.5.7″ _module_preset=”default” min_height=”1640px” custom_padding=”0px|||0px||” global_colors_info=”{}” theme_builder_area=”post_content”][et_pb_column type=”4_4″ _builder_version=”4.5.7″ _module_preset=”default” global_colors_info=”{}” theme_builder_area=”post_content”][et_pb_text disabled_on=”on|off|off” _builder_version=”4.5.7″ _module_preset=”default” text_line_height=”2.5em” custom_padding=”|125px||123px||” inline_fonts=”Nunito” global_colors_info=”{}” theme_builder_area=”post_content”]

\u201cPeace, peace, only peace\u201d<\/em>\u00a0my mom would say while placing her hand gently on my cheek..<\/span><\/p>\n

It was the same peace as in\u00a0\u201cPeace I leave with you, my peace I give to you.\u201d<\/em><\/span><\/p>\n

I received it with an open heart. I would let it fill every cell of my body with comfort, a sense of safety and a deep calm.<\/span><\/p>\n

But it would take me years to learn how to hold it on my own, to cultivate it and access it, so I could go to it in times of stress, fear, or grief.<\/span><\/p>\n

The journey to inner peace is a\u00a0process\u00a0<\/em>for all of us.<\/strong>\u00a0There is no magic wand that delivers a once-for-all fix. The process is what makes us appreciate the inner peace and its value in our lives.<\/span><\/p>\n

We are all born with it, but as soon as we are cut from our mother\u2019s umbilical cord, we begin to experience our body\/mind\u2019s reaction to our basic human needs (both physical and emotional needs).<\/span><\/p>\n

When our needs are met, peace is restored. When they aren\u2019t met, we feel disturbance and a whole lot of unpleasant emotions.<\/span><\/p>\n

Peace signals that love is present, that we are safe, and that all is well.<\/strong> The unmet needs trigger fear that we will perish (which is a beautiful part of our survival instinct and not \u2018bad\u2019 or \u2018wrong’).<\/span><\/p>\n

From that moment on, we spend our lives remembering the peace and love we came from, longing to live in it, and searching for ways to make it happen again.<\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n

As we grow, our basic emotional and physical needs change, and bring new challenges of how those needs are being met.<\/span><\/p>\n

When we gain the awareness that this journey of searching to restore the inner peace in itself is a\u00a0beautiful, sacred gift of being human<\/em>, we begin to accept all of its parts – every storm, every turbulent season, every dark night, and all the beautiful sunny days in between.<\/span><\/p>\n

With this acceptance, inner peace shows up like the blue skies when the fog lifts up.<\/span><\/p>\n

The unpleasant feelings come and go like waves on the beach.<\/span><\/p>\n

<\/strong><\/span>We understand that the turbulence disturbs the surface, but not the depths of our being.\u00a0<\/strong>We are able to recognize our needs and fill them – not with easy fixes, but through being connected with ourselves, others, and God.<\/span><\/span><\/p>\n

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\u201cPeace, peace, only peace\u201d<\/em>\u00a0my mom would say while placing her hand gently on my cheek..<\/span><\/p>\n

It was the same peace as in\u00a0\u201cPeace I leave with you, my peace I give to you.\u201d<\/em><\/span><\/p>\n

I received it with an open heart. I would let it fill every cell of my body with comfort, a sense of safety and a deep calm.<\/span><\/p>\n

But it would take me years to learn how to hold it on my own, to cultivate it and access it, so I could go to it in times of stress, fear, or grief.<\/span><\/p>\n

The journey to inner peace is a\u00a0process\u00a0<\/em>for all of us.<\/strong>\u00a0There is no magic wand that delivers a once-for-all fix. The process is what makes us appreciate the inner peace and its value in our lives.<\/span><\/p>\n

We are all born with it, but as soon as we are cut from our mother\u2019s umbilical cord, we begin to experience our body\/mind\u2019s reaction to our basic human needs (both physical and emotional needs).<\/span><\/p>\n

When our needs are met, peace is restored. When they aren\u2019t met, we feel disturbance and a whole lot of unpleasant emotions.<\/span><\/p>\n

Peace signals that love is present, that we are safe, and that all is well.<\/strong> The unmet needs trigger fear that we will perish (which is a beautiful part of our survival instinct and not \u2018bad\u2019 or \u2018wrong’).<\/span><\/p>\n

From that moment on, we spend our lives remembering the peace and love we came from, longing to live in it, and searching for ways to make it happen again.<\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n

As we grow, our basic emotional and physical needs change, and bring new challenges of how those needs are being met.<\/span><\/p>\n

When we gain the awareness that this journey of searching to restore the inner peace in itself is a\u00a0beautiful, sacred gift of being human<\/em>, we begin to accept all of its parts – every storm, every turbulent season, every dark night, and all the beautiful sunny days in between.<\/span><\/p>\n

With this acceptance, inner peace shows up like the blue skies when the fog lifts up.<\/span><\/p>\n

The unpleasant feelings come and go like waves on the beach.<\/span><\/p>\n

<\/strong><\/span>We understand that the turbulence disturbs the surface, but not the depths of our being.\u00a0<\/strong>We are able to recognize our needs and fill them – not with easy fixes, but through being connected with ourselves, others, and God.<\/span><\/p>[\/et_pb_text][et_pb_image src=”http:\/\/tatianacameron.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/05\/Blog-Banner-TC.com-4.png” title_text=”Blog Banner TC.com (4)” align=”center” _builder_version=”4.14.2″ _module_preset=”default” width=”100%” module_alignment=”center” global_colors_info=”{}” theme_builder_area=”post_content” hover_enabled=”0″ sticky_enabled=”0″][\/et_pb_image][et_pb_text disabled_on=”on|off|off” _builder_version=”4.5.7″ _module_preset=”default” text_line_height=”2.5em” custom_padding=”|122px||123px||” inline_fonts=”Nunito,Numans” global_colors_info=”{}” theme_builder_area=”post_content”]

This past week, I drove to Savannah to spend some time with two of my sons. There was no special event going on, nothing to be done – just to sit with them and be present. And to place my hands on their cheeks as my heart repeats: Peace, Peace, Only Peace.<\/em><\/span><\/p>\n

I had some extra time, so I visited Hilton Head, where we used to go as a family each year.<\/span><\/p>\n

I walked on the same beach where my sons (and their dad, my late husband) built sand castles, ran into the waves, laughed, and slept peacefully in my arms.<\/span><\/p>\n

I felt deep, deep, steady inner peace.<\/em><\/span><\/p>\n

I inhaled with gratitude.<\/span><\/p>\n

I remembered years of feeling unrest, sadness, depression, anxiety, fear, unhappiness, and guilt because I couldn\u2019t understand why I was feeling any of that.<\/span><\/p>\n

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I remembered the moment I decided to change and began the inner work that required practice – a daily practice of mindfulness, of cultivating awareness through meditation, healing the parts that felt broken, and understanding my needs better.<\/span><\/p>\n

I exhaled gratitude, feeling\u00a0peace, peace, only peace.<\/em><\/span><\/p>\n

I invited the memories in and opened my heart a little wider to feel what had been imprinted into it. With peace as solid and steady, I could feel all of the feelings of gratitude.<\/span><\/p>\n

These words came out (as I watched my fingers typing into the Notes app on my phone as if guided by some invisible dictation<\/em>):<\/span>\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

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I sat down on a sand dune of a familiar beach<\/span>
In perfect peace<\/span>
watching the waves.<\/span><\/p>\n

Sadness came in and offered:<\/span>
Don\u2019t you wish you felt peace within a long time ago?<\/span><\/em>
When you wished for something different and didn\u2019t know what it was?<\/span><\/em>
I nodded my head acknowledging the sadness<\/span>
As it stung<\/span>
Tears surged up<\/span>
I welcomed them like the sand welcomes its wave<\/span>
And I let them go, like the sand does –<\/span>
With no resistance.<\/span>
And the wave of sadness flowed back to where it came from .<\/span><\/p>\n

Then anger came in and spoke<\/span>
In a harsh voice<\/span>
You could have changed sooner<\/span><\/em>
You could have experienced so many perfect moments<\/span><\/em>
Instead you were so needy, restless, not knowing what was wrong!<\/span><\/em>
I bit my lips<\/span>
And felt my chest tightening<\/span>
as my heart pulsed with an ache,<\/span>
pushing the anger through its chambers<\/span>
like the tide that pulses and moves the waves in and out<\/span>
as their white foaming tips gently dissolved.<\/span><\/p>\n

Then a wave of compassion came.<\/span>
You did your best<\/span><\/em>
You did your best with the tools you had at the time.<\/span><\/em>
You worked hard. You did good,<\/span><\/em>
it whispered.<\/span>
It was a gentle, and long, and beautiful wave<\/span>
I watched it roll in and out<\/span><\/p>\n

I breathed and let it go too.<\/span><\/p>\n

I used to hold onto it<\/span>
All of it,<\/span>
The memories, the sadness, the anger, the fear, the longing for what no longer can be, the guilt, the desire to change the past, and the comfort I needed to keep me from pain.<\/span><\/p>\n

What I didn\u2019t know then – was that holding onto it is exactly what creates the storm – it makes the waves grow until they crush you.<\/span><\/p>\n

The ocean showed me:<\/span>
Let it pass.<\/span>
Let the emotions and memories and the longing and desires<\/span>
Come in and out<\/span>
Like the waves.<\/span>
Don\u2019t resist<\/span>
Breathe through them and with them.<\/span>
Love them all<\/span>
But let them go.<\/span>
And return to the peace within<\/span><\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n

PS. Scientists tell us that every emotion lasts 90 seconds if you don\u2019t feed it, or hold on to it. Like a wave, right? \ud83d\ude42\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

I invite you to try it.<\/span><\/p>\n

When unpleasant emotions arise, sit with them and let them pass like waves – with no judgment of resistance.<\/span><\/p>\n

And maybe reflect on how your basic emotional needs are being met (they are: affection, affirmation, acceptance, attention.)<\/em><\/span><\/p>\n

Sending you peace,
Tajci
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This past week, I drove to Savannah to spend some time with two of my sons. There was no special event going on, nothing to be done – just to sit with them and be present. And to place my hands on their cheeks as my heart repeats: Peace, Peace, Only Peace.<\/em><\/span><\/p>\n

I had some extra time, so I visited Hilton Head, where we used to go as a family each year.<\/span><\/p>\n

I walked on the same beach where my sons (and their dad, my late husband) built sand castles, ran into the waves, laughed, and slept peacefully in my arms.<\/span><\/p>\n

I felt deep, deep, steady inner peace.<\/em><\/span><\/p>\n

I inhaled with gratitude.<\/span><\/p>\n

I remembered years of feeling unrest, sadness, depression, anxiety, fear, unhappiness, and guilt because I couldn\u2019t understand why I was feeling any of that.<\/span><\/p>\n

I remembered the moment I decided to change and began the inner work that required practice – a daily practice of mindfulness, of cultivating awareness through meditation, healing the parts that felt broken, and understanding my needs better.<\/span><\/p>\n

I exhaled gratitude, feeling\u00a0peace, peace, only peace.<\/em><\/span><\/p>\n

I invited the memories in and opened my heart a little wider to feel what had been imprinted into it. With peace as solid and steady, I could feel all of the feelings of gratitude.<\/span><\/p>\n

These words came out (as I watched my fingers typing into the Notes app on my phone as if guided by some invisible dictation<\/em>):<\/span>\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

\n

I sat down on a sand dune of a familiar beach<\/span>
In perfect peace<\/span>
watching the waves.<\/span>

Sadness came in and offered:<\/span>
Don\u2019t you wish you felt peace within a long time ago?<\/span><\/em>
When you wished for something different and didn\u2019t know what it was?<\/span><\/em>
I nodded my head acknowledging the sadness<\/span>
As it stung<\/span>
Tears surged up<\/span>
I welcomed them like the sand welcomes its wave<\/span>
And I let them go, like the sand does –<\/span>
With no resistance.<\/span>
And the wave of sadness flowed back to where it came from .<\/span>

Then anger came in and spoke<\/span>
In a harsh voice<\/span>
You could have changed sooner<\/span><\/em>
You could have experienced so many perfect moments<\/span><\/em>
Instead you were so needy, restless, not knowing what was wrong!<\/span><\/em>
I bit my lips<\/span>
And felt my chest tightening<\/span>
as my heart pulsed with an ache,<\/span>
pushing the anger through its chambers<\/span>
like the tide that pulses and moves the waves in and out<\/span>
as their white foaming tips gently dissolved.<\/span>

Then a wave of compassion came.<\/span>
You did your best<\/span><\/em>
You did your best with the tools you had at the time.<\/span><\/em>
You worked hard. You did good,<\/span><\/em>
it whispered.<\/span>
It was a gentle, and long, and beautiful wave<\/span>
I watched it roll in and out<\/span>

I breathed and let it go too.<\/span>

I used to hold onto it<\/span>
All of it,<\/span>
The memories, the sadness, the anger, the fear, the longing for what no longer can be, the guilt, the desire to change the past, and the comfort I needed to keep me from pain.<\/span>

What I didn\u2019t know then – was that holding onto it is exactly what creates the storm – it makes the waves grow until they crush you.<\/span>

The ocean showed me:<\/span>
Let it pass.<\/span>
Let the emotions and memories and the longing and desires<\/span>
Come in and out<\/span>
Like the waves.<\/span>
Don\u2019t resist<\/span>
Breathe through them and with them.<\/span>
Love them all<\/span>
But let them go.<\/span>
And return to the peace within.<\/span><\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n

PS. Scientists tell us that every emotion lasts 90 seconds if you don\u2019t feed it, or hold on to it. Like a wave, right? \ud83d\ude42\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

I invite you to try it.<\/span><\/p>\n

When unpleasant emotions arise, sit with them and let them pass like waves – with no judgment of resistance.<\/span><\/p>\n

And maybe reflect on how your basic emotional needs are being met (they are: affection, affirmation, acceptance, attention.)<\/em><\/span><\/p>\n

Sending you peace,
Tajci<\/span><\/p>\n

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I wrote\u00a0this song<\/a>\u00a0over a few trips, in 2006-07, literally walking on the same beach in Hilton Head.<\/span><\/p>\n

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