{"id":5990,"date":"2021-07-26T15:52:05","date_gmt":"2021-07-26T20:52:05","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/tatianacameron.com\/?p=5990"},"modified":"2021-07-26T16:03:40","modified_gmt":"2021-07-26T21:03:40","slug":"do-you-feel-defeated-or-empowered","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"http:\/\/tatianacameron.com\/dev\/do-you-feel-defeated-or-empowered\/","title":{"rendered":"Do You Feel Defeated, or Empowered?"},"content":{"rendered":"\n[et_pb_section fb_built=&#8221;1&#8243; _builder_version=&#8221;4.5.7&#8243; _module_preset=&#8221;default&#8221; custom_margin=&#8221;-53px|||||&#8221;][et_pb_row disabled_on=&#8221;off|off|off&#8221; _builder_version=&#8221;4.5.7&#8243; _module_preset=&#8221;default&#8221; min_height=&#8221;1640px&#8221; custom_padding=&#8221;0px|||0px||&#8221;][et_pb_column type=&#8221;4_4&#8243; _builder_version=&#8221;4.5.7&#8243; _module_preset=&#8221;default&#8221;][et_pb_text disabled_on=&#8221;on|off|off&#8221; _builder_version=&#8221;4.5.7&#8243; _module_preset=&#8221;default&#8221; text_line_height=&#8221;2.5em&#8221; custom_padding=&#8221;|124px||124px|false|false&#8221;]<p><span style=\"font-size: large; color: #000000;\">How\u2019s your summer going?\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-size: large; color: #000000;\">I found this on my FB and thought it was funny (and a little bit true) LOL<\/span><\/p>\n<blockquote>\n<p><span style=\"font-size: large; color: #000000;\">\u201cEuropeans\u2019 out of offices are like: \u2018I will not be working until 18 September. All emails will be automatically deleted.\u2019<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-size: large; color: #000000;\">Americans: \u2018I\u2019m in the hospital. Email responses may be delayed by up to 30 mins. Sorry for the inconvenience. If urgent, please reach me in the ER at\u2026\u2019\u201d<\/span><\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n<p><span style=\"font-size: large; color: #000000;\">As you can imagine, I\u2019m doing a combination of the two. I\u2019m working and spending time resting, sitting on my deck enjoying my gardens, and going to the pool with the kids.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-size: large; color: #000000;\">It\u2019s not that I can\u2019t take the whole summer off. I don\u2019t really want to \ud83d\ude42\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-size: large; color: #000000;\">I\u2019m also taking another certification course (on meditation this time)\u00a0AND working with an International Coaching Federation mentor on earning an Associate Certified Coach (ACC) credential, on a path to getting a Professional Certified Coach (PCC) credential after that.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-size: large; color: #000000;\">Our mentor is an amazing Master Certified Coach (MCC) and it\u2019s so cool to be learning from her. She demonstrates how a coach (as defined by the ICF), only asks questions and reflects back what she hears from a client, allowing them to find solutions on their own (which always sticks better than any advice\u00a0and produces better results).<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-size: large; color: #000000;\"><strong>This is exactly why I love coaching.<\/strong>\u00a0It\u2019s so rewarding to witness a breakthrough in a client when they uncover a solution\u00a0or a path to their desired outcome &#8211; all\u00a0on their own!<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-size: large; color: #000000;\">I also genuinely love asking questions. I\u2019ve experienced a lot of growth and \u2018moving ahead\u2019 through curiosity and the courage to question and challenge my stuck points.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-size: large; color: #000000;\">Questions lead me to ponderings and reflections which, without fail, uncover some insight, a new perspective, or a connection that I hadn\u2019t seen or thought of before.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-size: large; color: #000000;\"><strong>This past week, I pondered what happens when we replace\u00a0<em>\u201cI can\u2019t\u201d<\/em>\u00a0with\u00a0<em>\u201cI don\u2019t want to.\u201d\u00a0<\/em><\/strong><\/span><\/p>[\/et_pb_text][et_pb_text disabled_on=&#8221;off|off|on&#8221; _builder_version=&#8221;4.5.7&#8243; _module_preset=&#8221;default&#8221; text_line_height=&#8221;2.4em&#8221; custom_padding=&#8221;|8px||7px|false|false&#8221;]<p><span style=\"font-size: large;\">How\u2019s your summer going?\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-size: large;\">I found this on my FB and thought it was funny (and a little bit true) LOL<\/span><\/p>\n<blockquote>\n<p><span style=\"font-size: large;\">\u201cEuropeans\u2019 out of offices are like: \u2018I will not be working until 18 September. All emails will be automatically deleted.\u2019<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-size: large;\">Americans: \u2018I\u2019m in the hospital. Email responses may be delayed by up to 30 mins. Sorry for the inconvenience. If urgent, please reach me in the ER at\u2026\u2019\u201d<\/span><\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n<p><span style=\"font-size: large;\">As you can imagine, I\u2019m doing a combination of the two. I\u2019m working and spending time resting, sitting on my deck enjoying my gardens, and going to the pool with the kids.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-size: large;\">It\u2019s not that I can\u2019t take the whole summer off. I don\u2019t really want to \ud83d\ude42\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-size: large;\">I\u2019m also taking another certification course (on meditation this time)\u00a0AND working with an International Coaching Federation mentor on earning an Associate Certified Coach (ACC) credential, on a path to getting a Professional Certified Coach (PCC) credential after that.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-size: large;\">Our mentor is an amazing Master Certified Coach (MCC) and it\u2019s so cool to be learning from her. She demonstrates how a coach (as defined by the ICF), only asks questions and reflects back what she hears from a client, allowing them to find solutions on their own (which always sticks better than any advice\u00a0and produces better results).<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-size: large;\"><strong>This is exactly why I love coaching.<\/strong>\u00a0It\u2019s so rewarding to witness a breakthrough in a client when they uncover a solution\u00a0or a path to their desired outcome &#8211; all\u00a0on their own!<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-size: large;\">I also genuinely love asking questions. I\u2019ve experienced a lot of growth and \u2018moving ahead\u2019 through curiosity and the courage to question and challenge my stuck points.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-size: large;\">Questions lead me to ponderings and reflections which, without fail, uncover some insight, a new perspective, or a connection that I hadn\u2019t seen or thought of before.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-size: large;\"><strong>This past week, I pondered what happens when we replace\u00a0<em>\u201cI can\u2019t\u201d<\/em>\u00a0with\u00a0<em>\u201cI don\u2019t want to.\u201d\u00a0<\/em><\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n<blockquote><\/blockquote>[\/et_pb_text][et_pb_image src=&#8221;http:\/\/tatianacameron.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/07\/FINAL_Blog-Banner-TC.com-16.png&#8221; title_text=&#8221;FINAL_Blog Banner TC.com (16)&#8221; align=&#8221;center&#8221; _builder_version=&#8221;4.5.7&#8243; _module_preset=&#8221;default&#8221; width=&#8221;100%&#8221; hover_enabled=&#8221;0&#8243;][\/et_pb_image][et_pb_text disabled_on=&#8221;on|off|off&#8221; _builder_version=&#8221;4.5.7&#8243; _module_preset=&#8221;default&#8221; text_line_height=&#8221;2.5em&#8221; custom_padding=&#8221;|124px||124px|false|false&#8221;]<p><span style=\"font-size: large; color: #000000;\">For example, one evening my son felt tired and said he had to call his friends to tell them he couldn\u2019t go out with them. That made him feel bad. He also didn\u2019t want them to pressure him into going. I asked,\u00a0<em>\u201cWhat would happen if you said to them that you just wanted to stay home and rest?\u201d<\/em>\u00a0Because that was really more true.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-size: large; color: #000000;\">After he got off the phone with them, he came back to me relieved and happy. They understood and accepted his answer, without making him feel bad. They are good friends and want what\u2019s best for my son. So easy, right?\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-size: large; color: #000000;\">A friend of mine said she couldn\u2019t wear a certain pair of shoes and that made her sad. I asked\u00a0<em>\u201cIs it true that you can\u2019t? Or is it more true that you don\u2019t want to wear those shoes because you love feeling good, aren\u2019t into torturing yourself, and you prefer your feet not hurting?\u201d<\/em>\u00a0She smiled and gave me a high five.\u00a0<em>\u201cWho needs those shoes anyway!\u201d\u00a0<\/em>We laughed.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-size: large; color: #000000;\">It\u2019s a small mindset shift\u00a0that can make a huge difference in how we feel &#8211; either defeated because we<em>\u00a0\u2018can\u2019t do something\u2019<\/em>\u00a0or\u00a0<strong>empowered\u00a0<\/strong>because we actually don\u2019t want it badly enough to make all the sacrifices it would require.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-size: large; color: #000000;\">Here is another example:\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-size: large; color: #000000;\">Yesterday was a full moon. It was gorgeous. As I looked at it, I thought about how, at some point, someone\u2019s\u00a0<em>\u201cI want to go to the moon\u201d<\/em>\u00a0became stronger than\u00a0<em>\u201cI can\u2019t go to the moon\u201d\u00a0<\/em>and the possibility of developing the technology was opened. The process of finding a solution to change the \u2018can\u2019t go to the moon\u2019 was put into motion.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-size: large; color: #000000;\">Cool, right? And powerful.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<blockquote><\/blockquote>\n<blockquote><\/blockquote>\n<blockquote><\/blockquote>\n<blockquote><\/blockquote>\n<blockquote><\/blockquote>\n<blockquote><\/blockquote>\n<blockquote><\/blockquote>\n<blockquote><\/blockquote>\n<blockquote><\/blockquote>\n<blockquote><\/blockquote>\n<blockquote><\/blockquote>\n<blockquote><\/blockquote>\n<blockquote><\/blockquote>\n<blockquote><\/blockquote>\n<blockquote><\/blockquote>\n<blockquote><\/blockquote>\n<blockquote><\/blockquote>\n<blockquote><\/blockquote>\n<blockquote><\/blockquote>\n<blockquote><\/blockquote>\n<blockquote><\/blockquote>\n<blockquote><\/blockquote>\n<blockquote><\/blockquote>\n<blockquote><\/blockquote>\n<blockquote><\/blockquote>\n<p class=\"p1\"><\/p>\n<blockquote><\/blockquote>\n<blockquote><\/blockquote>\n<blockquote><\/blockquote>\n<blockquote><\/blockquote>\n<blockquote><\/blockquote>[\/et_pb_text][et_pb_text disabled_on=&#8221;off|off|on&#8221; _builder_version=&#8221;4.5.7&#8243; _module_preset=&#8221;default&#8221; text_line_height=&#8221;2.4em&#8221; custom_padding=&#8221;|16px||6px|false|false&#8221;]<p><span style=\"font-size: large; color: #000000;\">For example, one evening my son felt tired and said he had to call his friends to tell them he couldn\u2019t go out with them. That made him feel bad. He also didn\u2019t want them to pressure him into going. I asked,\u00a0<em>\u201cWhat would happen if you said to them that you just wanted to stay home and rest?\u201d<\/em>\u00a0Because that was really more true.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-size: large; color: #000000;\">After he got off the phone with them, he came back to me relieved and happy. They understood and accepted his answer, without making him feel bad. They are good friends and want what\u2019s best for my son. So easy, right?\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-size: large; color: #000000;\">A friend of mine said she couldn\u2019t wear a certain pair of shoes and that made her sad. I asked\u00a0<em>\u201cIs it true that you can\u2019t? Or is it more true that you don\u2019t want to wear those shoes because you love feeling good, aren\u2019t into torturing yourself, and you prefer your feet not hurting?\u201d<\/em>\u00a0She smiled and gave me a high five.\u00a0<em>\u201cWho needs those shoes anyway!\u201d\u00a0<\/em>We laughed.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-size: large; color: #000000;\">It\u2019s a small mindset shift\u00a0that can make a huge difference in how we feel &#8211; either defeated because we<em>\u00a0\u2018can\u2019t do something\u2019<\/em>\u00a0or\u00a0<strong>empowered\u00a0<\/strong>because we actually don\u2019t want it badly enough to make all the sacrifices it would require.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-size: large; color: #000000;\">Here is another example:\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-size: large; color: #000000;\">Yesterday was a full moon. It was gorgeous. As I looked at it, I thought about how, at some point, someone\u2019s\u00a0<em>\u201cI want to go to the moon\u201d<\/em>\u00a0became stronger than\u00a0<em>\u201cI can\u2019t go to the moon\u201d\u00a0<\/em>and the possibility of developing the technology was opened. The process of finding a solution to change the \u2018can\u2019t go to the moon\u2019 was put into motion.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-size: large; color: #000000;\">Cool, right? And powerful.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<blockquote><\/blockquote>\n<blockquote><\/blockquote>\n<blockquote><\/blockquote>\n<blockquote><\/blockquote>\n<blockquote><\/blockquote>\n<blockquote><\/blockquote>\n<blockquote><\/blockquote>\n<blockquote><\/blockquote>\n<blockquote><\/blockquote>\n<blockquote><\/blockquote>\n<blockquote><\/blockquote>\n<blockquote><\/blockquote>\n<blockquote><\/blockquote>\n<blockquote><\/blockquote>\n<blockquote><\/blockquote>\n<blockquote><\/blockquote>\n<blockquote><\/blockquote>\n<blockquote><\/blockquote>\n<blockquote><\/blockquote>\n<blockquote><\/blockquote>\n<blockquote><\/blockquote>\n<blockquote><\/blockquote>\n<blockquote><\/blockquote>\n<blockquote><\/blockquote>\n<blockquote><\/blockquote>\n<p class=\"p1\"><\/p>\n<blockquote><\/blockquote>\n<blockquote><\/blockquote>\n<blockquote><\/blockquote>[\/et_pb_text][et_pb_image src=&#8221;http:\/\/tatianacameron.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/07\/2021-Blog-SM-posts-8.png&#8221; title_text=&#8221;2021 Blog SM posts (8)&#8221; align=&#8221;center&#8221; _builder_version=&#8221;4.5.7&#8243; _module_preset=&#8221;default&#8221; width=&#8221;55%&#8221; hover_enabled=&#8221;0&#8243;][\/et_pb_image][et_pb_text disabled_on=&#8221;on|off|off&#8221; _builder_version=&#8221;4.5.7&#8243; _module_preset=&#8221;default&#8221; text_line_height=&#8221;2.5em&#8221; custom_margin=&#8221;||0px||false|false&#8221; custom_padding=&#8221;0px|124px||124px||&#8221;]<p><span style=\"color: #000000; font-size: large;\">You can always say to yourself \u201cI can\u2019t\u201d (<\/span><em style=\"color: #000000; font-size: large;\">go on the trip I\u2019ve wanted to take for the last 10 years<\/em><span style=\"color: #000000; font-size: large;\">), but what you really mean is \u201cI don\u2019t want to\u201d (<\/span><em style=\"color: #000000; font-size: large;\">because it would take way too many sacrifices, figuring things out, moving finances around, getting a passport, and finding someone to take care of your dog, and, and, and\u2026<\/em><span style=\"color: #000000; font-size: large;\">)\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-size: large; color: #000000;\">There is so much power in switching those words &#8211; not just in saying them, but how you think about what you \u2018can\u2019t\u2019 do and \u2018want\u2019 to do.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-size: large; color: #000000;\">Try it this week.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-size: large; color: #000000;\"><strong>When you think\u00a0<em>\u2018I can\u2019t\u2019<\/em>\u00a0pause and ask if it\u2019s true that you \u2018can\u2019t\u2019 or is it more true that you simply\u00a0<em>don\u2019t want to<\/em>.\u00a0<\/strong>And feel good about not wanting it. Release the pressure that comes with \u2018I\u2019d love to, but I can\u2019t.\u2019\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-size: large; color: #000000;\">And if, in the process of reflecting on it, you realize why it is important to you, and you know you actually really want it to happen, then lean into it.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-size: large; color: #000000;\">Let it happen. Let your desire open up the paths to possibilities. Know that if people could make a rocket and launch themselves into outer space (like Sir Richard Branson did a few weeks ago\u00a0and Jeff Bezos last week), you\u2019ll find solutions to take steps toward whatever it is you really want. (NOTE: the wise spiritual teachers tell us that God gives us what we desire, but only if it benefits others, not just satisfies our ego.)\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-size: large; color: #000000;\">All right, I want to end this newsletter now and go play, because it\u2019s Saturday and it\u2019s summer and I want to play, rather than say to my kids\u00a0<em>\u2018I can\u2019t, I got work to do.\u2019<\/em>\u00a0LOL \ud83d\ude42\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<blockquote><\/blockquote>\n<blockquote><\/blockquote>[\/et_pb_text][et_pb_text disabled_on=&#8221;off|off|on&#8221; _builder_version=&#8221;4.5.7&#8243; _module_preset=&#8221;default&#8221; text_line_height=&#8221;2.4em&#8221; min_height=&#8221;49px&#8221; custom_padding=&#8221;0px||0px|||&#8221;]<p><span style=\"font-size: large; color: #000000;\">For example, one evening my son felt tired and said he had to call his friends to tell them he couldn\u2019t go out with them. That made him feel bad. He also didn\u2019t want them to pressure him into going. I asked,\u00a0<em>\u201cWhat would happen if you said to them that you just wanted to stay home and rest?\u201d<\/em>\u00a0Because that was really more true.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-size: large; color: #000000;\">After he got off the phone with them, he came back to me relieved and happy. They understood and accepted his answer, without making him feel bad. They are good friends and want what\u2019s best for my son. So easy, right?\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-size: large; color: #000000;\">A friend of mine said she couldn\u2019t wear a certain pair of shoes and that made her sad. I asked\u00a0<em>\u201cIs it true that you can\u2019t? Or is it more true that you don\u2019t want to wear those shoes because you love feeling good, aren\u2019t into torturing yourself, and you prefer your feet not hurting?\u201d<\/em>\u00a0She smiled and gave me a high five.\u00a0<em>\u201cWho needs those shoes anyway!\u201d\u00a0<\/em>We laughed.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-size: large; color: #000000;\">It\u2019s a small mindset shift\u00a0that can make a huge difference in how we feel &#8211; either defeated because we<em>\u00a0\u2018can\u2019t do something\u2019<\/em>\u00a0or\u00a0<strong>empowered\u00a0<\/strong>because we actually don\u2019t want it badly enough to make all the sacrifices it would require.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-size: large; color: #000000;\">Here is another example:\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-size: large; color: #000000;\">Yesterday was a full moon. It was gorgeous. As I looked at it, I thought about how, at some point, someone\u2019s\u00a0<em>\u201cI want to go to the moon\u201d<\/em>\u00a0became stronger than\u00a0<em>\u201cI can\u2019t go to the moon\u201d\u00a0<\/em>and the possibility of developing the technology was opened. The process of finding a solution to change the \u2018can\u2019t go to the moon\u2019 was put into motion.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-size: large; color: #000000;\">Cool, right? And powerful.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-size: large; color: #000000;\">You can always say to yourself \u201cI can\u2019t\u201d (<em>go on the trip I\u2019ve wanted to take for the last 10 years<\/em>), but what you really mean is \u201cI don\u2019t want to\u201d (<em>because it would take way too many sacrifices, figuring things out, moving finances around, getting a passport, and finding someone to take care of your dog, and, and, and\u2026<\/em>)\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-size: large; color: #000000;\">There is so much power in switching those words &#8211; not just in saying them, but how you think about what you \u2018can\u2019t\u2019 do and \u2018want\u2019 to do.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-size: large; color: #000000;\">Try it this week.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-size: large; color: #000000;\"><strong>When you think\u00a0<em>\u2018I can\u2019t\u2019<\/em>\u00a0pause and ask if it\u2019s true that you \u2018can\u2019t\u2019 or is it more true that you simply\u00a0<em>don\u2019t want to<\/em>.\u00a0<\/strong>And feel good about not wanting it. Release the pressure that comes with \u2018I\u2019d love to, but I can\u2019t.\u2019\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-size: large; color: #000000;\">And if, in the process of reflecting on it, you realize why it is important to you, and you know you actually really want it to happen, then lean into it.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-size: large; color: #000000;\">Let it happen. Let your desire open up the paths to possibilities. Know that if people could make a rocket and launch themselves into outer space (like Sir Richard Branson did a few weeks ago\u00a0and Jeff Bezos last week), you\u2019ll find solutions to take steps toward whatever it is you really want. (NOTE: the wise spiritual teachers tell us that God gives us what we desire, but only if it benefits others, not just satisfies our ego.)\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-size: large; color: #000000;\">All right, I want to end this newsletter now and go play, because it\u2019s Saturday and it\u2019s summer and I want to play, rather than say to my kids\u00a0<em>\u2018I can\u2019t, I got work to do.\u2019<\/em>\u00a0LOL \ud83d\ude42\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<blockquote><\/blockquote>\n<blockquote><\/blockquote>\n<blockquote><\/blockquote>\n<blockquote><\/blockquote>\n<blockquote><\/blockquote>\n<blockquote><\/blockquote>\n<blockquote><\/blockquote>\n<blockquote><\/blockquote>\n<blockquote><\/blockquote>\n<blockquote><\/blockquote>\n<blockquote><\/blockquote>\n<blockquote><\/blockquote>\n<blockquote><\/blockquote>\n<blockquote><\/blockquote>\n<blockquote><\/blockquote>\n<blockquote><\/blockquote>\n<blockquote><\/blockquote>\n<blockquote><\/blockquote>\n<blockquote><\/blockquote>\n<blockquote><\/blockquote>\n<blockquote><\/blockquote>\n<blockquote><\/blockquote>\n<blockquote><\/blockquote>\n<blockquote><\/blockquote>\n<blockquote><\/blockquote>\n<blockquote><\/blockquote>\n<p class=\"p1\"><\/p>\n<blockquote><\/blockquote>\n<blockquote><\/blockquote>\n<blockquote><\/blockquote>[\/et_pb_text][et_pb_text _builder_version=&#8221;4.5.7&#8243; _module_preset=&#8221;default&#8221; min_height=&#8221;46px&#8221;]<p style=\"text-align: center;\"><span style=\"font-size: xx-large; color: #be1e2d;\"><strong>Music<\/strong><\/span><\/p>[\/et_pb_text][et_pb_text disabled_on=&#8221;on|off|off&#8221; _builder_version=&#8221;4.5.7&#8243; _module_preset=&#8221;default&#8221; text_line_height=&#8221;2.4em&#8221; custom_margin=&#8221;||0px||false|false&#8221; custom_padding=&#8221;3px|124px||124px||&#8221;]<p><span style=\"font-size: large; color: #000000;\">\u00a0Here is a beautiful old classic country song that I love to sing. &#8220;Blue Kentucky Girl&#8221; written by Johnny Mullins, and originally recorded by the amazing Loretta Lynn. I can\u2019t wait to sing it this coming week at St. Philip\u2019s Summer Concert Series in downtown Franklin, TN!<\/span><\/p>[\/et_pb_text][et_pb_text disabled_on=&#8221;off|off|on&#8221; _builder_version=&#8221;4.5.7&#8243; _module_preset=&#8221;default&#8221; text_line_height=&#8221;2.4em&#8221; min_height=&#8221;49px&#8221; custom_padding=&#8221;0px||0px|||&#8221;]<p><span style=\"font-size: large; color: #000000;\">\u00a0Here is a beautiful old classic country song that I love to sing. &#8220;Blue Kentucky Girl&#8221; written by Johnny Mullins, and originally recorded by the amazing Loretta Lynn. 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You keep at it, you push through the hard times, and you learn to enjoy every minute of it - because after so many ups and downs, you learn to let go of your attachment to the outcome and you trust that Love (God) will organize all the pieces (that you put your heart into) for you. (I just wrote a poem about that last week. LOL)<\/p>\n<!-- \/wp:paragraph -->\n\n<!-- wp:paragraph -->\n<p>You find satisfaction in your work - especially when it touches someone, or provides value for someone - which is the case with all meaningful work!<\/p>\n<!-- \/wp:paragraph -->\n\n<!-- wp:paragraph -->\n<p>And you are happy. Fulfilled.<\/p>\n<!-- \/wp:paragraph -->\n\n<!-- wp:paragraph -->\n<p>Like my son, Blais, who got himself a job at the local grocery store. After his first day of training, I asked him what his responsibilities would be. He said \u201cI\u2019m in customer service. And that means my job is to make people feel welcomed, valued, seen, and heard.\u201d<\/p>\n<!-- \/wp:paragraph -->\n\n<!-- wp:paragraph -->\n<p>When he came home from his first day of work, he was glowing! He had been corralling shopping carts and bagging groceries for six hours, but he didn\u2019t even mention that. ALL he experienced was interacting with customers. He felt incredibly accomplished because he told me, he got to talk to people, ask them how their day went, and make them feel good. He brought me a bunch of roses because he said he was moved by someone who was buying roses for their mother.<\/p>\n<!-- \/wp:paragraph -->\n\n<!-- wp:paragraph -->\n<p>THIS was a life-defining moment for him. Blais\u2019 manager could have told him his job was to bag groceries quickly and efficiently, and to compete with the next kid at the number of shopping carts they can pull in one swoop. <strong>Instead, they gave him the gift of a mindset that puts people - and service - before productivity.<\/strong><\/p>\n<!-- \/wp:paragraph -->\n\n<!-- wp:paragraph -->\n<p>I guess the manager also knows that with that mindset, Blais will naturally work faster and more efficiently - and everyone wins. And of course, this takes trust. Being pleasant to customers isn\u2019t something a manager can put out as a neat checklist or a measurable goal. Trust.<\/p>\n<!-- \/wp:paragraph -->\n\n<!-- wp:paragraph -->\n<p>Now, back to my song\u2026<\/p>\n<!-- \/wp:paragraph -->\n\n<!-- wp:paragraph -->\n<p>A few years back, when I first moved to Nashville, I met Tom Paden, a songwriter who wrote hit songs for artists like Reba McEntire. Tom suggested we co-write a song that I would record and enter it into the Eurovision Song Contest. A few days later, he showed up at my house with his writing partner, Eddie Kilgallon.<\/p>\n<!-- \/wp:paragraph -->\n\n<!-- wp:paragraph -->\n<p>Tom and Eddie had an idea for a song about the Wall (as in the Berlin wall) - an anthem about what happens when the wall comes down and people come together.<\/p>\n<!-- \/wp:paragraph -->\n\n<!-- wp:paragraph -->\n<p>You can imagine I had a few things to say about that, LOL\u2026 but the most important thing for me was that <strong>big changes don\u2019t happen fast.<\/strong> It\u2019s a process.<\/p>\n<!-- \/wp:paragraph -->\n\n<!-- wp:paragraph -->\n<p>(Full disclosure here: I wasn\u2019t talking about life in Europe. I was drawing from my marriage struggles. Matthew and I had just come out of our separation and were working on healing our relationship.)<\/p>\n<!-- \/wp:paragraph -->\n\n<!-- wp:paragraph -->\n<p><strong>When the conflict grows too big, we build walls because we need something to keep us from charging at each other, and constantly attacking.<\/strong><\/p>\n<!-- \/wp:paragraph -->\n\n<!-- wp:paragraph -->\n<p>Then, the wall keeps us away. But our anger and unresolved conflicts grow in our minds and hearts, which makes the other side seem full of dark shadows and scary monsters.<\/p>\n<!-- \/wp:paragraph -->\n\n<!-- wp:paragraph -->\n<p>We keep this up for a while, but eventually we get tired (because anger and fear are exhausting, and walls make us feel constricted).<\/p>\n<!-- \/wp:paragraph -->\n\n<!-- wp:paragraph -->\n<p>Then something happens, or someone comes along who inspires us to address the wall (because there is still the Divine that finds a way to interfere with our human quarrels and stubbornness) and we feel willing to try.<\/p>\n<!-- \/wp:paragraph -->\n\n<!-- wp:paragraph -->\n<p><strong>What happens in that moment is what this song talks about.<\/strong><\/p>\n<!-- \/wp:paragraph -->\n\n<!-- wp:paragraph -->\n<p>Tom and Eddie put a demo together and it came out so well that we decided to pitch it to some major artists (instead of having me sing it).<\/p>\n<!-- \/wp:paragraph -->\n\n<!-- wp:paragraph -->\n<p>I released my attachment to the outcome, and trusted that Eddie and Tom knew what they were doing. We all wanted the song to get out there and reach a lot of people with its beautiful message and melody. Tom and Eddie did a lot of pitching, but they also trusted that the right artist would come along. Olivia Newton-John heard the song (through a very unconventional channel connected to her non-profit) and was immediately drawn to it.<\/p>\n<!-- \/wp:paragraph -->\n\n<!-- wp:paragraph -->\n<p>:)<\/p>\n<!-- \/wp:paragraph -->\n\n<!-- wp:paragraph -->\n<p>Trust. Do the work and then trust.<\/p>\n<!-- \/wp:paragraph -->\n\n<!-- wp:paragraph -->\n<p>\u201cWindow in the Wall\u201d is perfect for the times we live in. I\u2019ve been reading the comments on Olivia\u2019s social media, and people are already commenting on how much they needed this shot of hope and encouragement.<\/p>\n<!-- \/wp:paragraph -->\n\n<!-- wp:paragraph -->\n<p>So here are three things I hope can be a bit of an inspiration for you today:<\/p>\n<!-- \/wp:paragraph -->\n\n<!-- wp:paragraph -->\n<p><strong>(1) Keep showing up. Find little joys in everyday tasks.<\/strong><\/p>\n<!-- \/wp:paragraph -->\n\n<!-- wp:paragraph -->\n<p>If you are out of work, keep finding meaningful work - learn something, help someone, create something. Nourish your soul, mind, and heart with uplifting content - music, art. Nurture your body with healthy foods and walks in nature. Update your resume, research or contact potential employers, rebrand yourself if you have to (I\u2019ve done that a few times\u2026), stay in shape, and then let it go.<\/p>\n<!-- \/wp:paragraph -->\n\n<!-- wp:paragraph -->\n<p>Trust. 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